As per definitions, neat freaks are those people who want everything to be properly cleaned and organized at all times.
I am a neat freak and it’s okay to be one. In fact it’s great to manage everything and keep it nice and clean and organized at all times. It saves your time spent in finding things and buying multiples.
a neat freak and it’s okay to be one. In fact it’s great to manage everything and keep it nice and clean and organized at all times. It saves your time spent in finding things and buying multiples.
It keeps your environment clean and when your surroundings are clutter free, your mind is also clutter free (goodbye negative thoughts!!).
But as the saying goes,
Too much of anything is bad.
So is the case with being a neat freak.
I don’t want to hurt sentiments of any person who feels honored as being a neat freak. I am one and I wear the badge proudly. But there are some scenarios where being a neat freak is not okay.
There are times when you have to feel okay for not being perfectly clean and organized.
There are times when you have to respect other’s personal space and let them be themselves.
There are times when being a “Neat Freak” is not okay. It’s downright wrong in some cases.
I have listed some reasons/ scenarios where being a neat freak is not at all okay. So avoid being an “extremist” neat freak and enjoy life.
Don’t let your badge turned into a psychological disorder. And I am sure you don;t want to hurt anybody with your “unintentional” remarks because you’re a neat freak.
Read and analyze if you’re unintentionally being a neat freak when it’s not at all okay to be one.
IT’S NOT OKAY TO BE A NEAT FREAK WHEN:
- You Start Judging People
People are made to be loved and cared for. You haven’t been blessed with relations and humans around to judge. You may be super organized but others around you might not be. It’s okay for them. So don’t judge people because they are no neat freaks. Let them be themselves.
- You Can’t Appreciate Others
Appreciation matters a lot. Once you become a super obsessed neat freak; you stop appreciating others for all the good they are doing.
You even start seeing other organized people as a ‘threat’ to you. You unintentionally become someone who can’t appreciate others, show them love and shower them with kindness. It’s high time you realize that it’s not okay to be someone like this.
- Your Unintentional Comments Hurt Others
‘OMG! Don’t you clean your ceilings?’
‘When was the last time you washed your bathroom. There ‘re water marks there.’
‘I can’t stand smudgy switches. Give me a cloth, I’ll clean them.’
If you’re at someone’s place and you are someone who say this to them in their homes then please STOP! It is NEVER okay to comment on someone’s ways of living.
A clean bathroom with water splashes doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been washed. It means that it gets used.
Smudgy switches might be there because toddlers in the house are learning to do things for themselves.
If the ceilings and fans have dust and are not presenting to be a scene from some horror movie then it’s okay.
Your comments might hurt a lady trying to manage work, kids, home and life together.
Please don’t offer cleaning services at someone’s home; until and unless they ask for. It really makes the host feel bad when anyone from the guests’ start commenting on how she’s keeping the house and cleaning. It’s downright unethical.
You’re at someone’s place to enjoy the company and not there to clean. Please let it be that way.
- You Only Brag About How You Have It All Together
You know it’s not okay being a neat freak when all you can talk about is how super organized and neat everything is at your place and how you have kept it all together.
You may enjoy cleaning and it relaxes your mind but everyone is not built the same way. There are people for whom cleaning is just another huge task on the chore list.
It’s not okay to brag about how you keep it together when no one has asked for it. Period.
- Your Way Is THE ONLY RIGHT Way
It’s not okay being a neat freak when you start believing that your way of doing something IS THE ONLY RIGHT WAY to do it. As long as things are getting done, it’s okay.
If the pillows are not aligned in the exact center of the bed, it’s okay.
If the dishes are not greasy then they’re washed properly. It’s not necessary to rinse them first, then soap them and rinse again.
Same goes for all the other chores.
- You Become Anti Social
It’s not okay being a neat freak when you start becoming anti social.
When a party is being planned, instead of thinking about the menu and arrangements, you start dreading the mess that will be created.
You can only think about the mes instead of the maza (fun).
You would cringe when even kids drop a candy on your floors.
It’s not okay to be a neat freak when relations become secondary to your clean home.
- You Start Losing Sleep
It’s not okay to be a neat freak when you start losing your sleep and appetite over the long list of never ending chores.
Laundry needs to be done, clothes organized, floors swept and mopped, dishes to be cleaned and all these are never ending chores.
If you have started to lose your sleep and appetite over these chores and you scold anyone who adds a dish to the pile or has a stain on shirt than it’s time ti realize that it’s not okay to be a neat freak.
- A Wrapper Makes you go Insane
A wrapper out of the dustbin anywhere in the house by a kid who’s at the table enjoying his treat makes you go insane because he has not ‘first’ thrown the wrapper is the time you realize that it’s not okay to be a neat freak.
Let the child enjoy his treat and then ask him to clean up after himself. Don’t let a wrapper taking over your sanity.
- You Prefer Doing Everything Yourself Perfectly
It’s not okay being a neat freak when you rewash the dishes someone washed for you to help you because they were not done in the right way perfectly.
I’s not okay when you tear up the bed sheets just to remake them because they were not made perfectly.
It’s not okay being a neat freak when you don’t let people help you.
It’s not okay being a neat freak when you try to do everything yourself perfectly.
This post is not to hurt the sentiments of any neat freaks out there. it’s just a piece of writing where I am trying to make you aware of the times when you might be hurting others unintentionally and where to set the boundaries of neatness to stop it from affecting your relations.